Hello 2014. Are you bringing your problems from 2013 with you in this New Year? Or will you have the resolve to make certain that 2015 will not be ushered in still carrying the same problems with you?
Make no mistake about it. Separation and divorce are traumatic for all involved. You already know the burden of living with the problems that have brought you to this place. The future is an unknown burden and of course that makes it all the more frightening. Still I often discover that both parties, who have been living with this horrible anticipation, do look forward to a time when this crushing journey will come to an end, and each can start again.
As a family law litigation attorney turned family law attorney-mediator, I can tell you that I feel a huge portion of the anticipated fear is about the process of getting separated or divorced. There is no end to the ugly courtroom dramas told by couples who have taken the traditional route with a litigating attorney through the court system. So many times when couples have finished their mediation session with me they remark on how happily surprised they are with how orderly and non-traumatic the process actually can be. Of course the emotional fall-out does not end with the contractual negotiation process, but with mediation, the process itself doesn’t aggravate the emotional blow.
The New Year is a good time to look to the future when the past has been so difficult. Separation and Divorce are hard enough without adding warring attorneys who want retainers (aka the down payments) and payment of endless monthly legal bills; or worse, court dates and unknown judgments handed down by someone in a black robe holding a gavel in a public forum.
There is another way; private mediation for family law matters of separation, divorce, custody, child support, alimony and property and debt division. It’s the future of family law that fits your future of better times ahead for 2014 and beyond. Start with a better separation and divorce process and the rest will follow.